The Best Ways to Be Happy
We all know that happiness is the state of mind along with the relative physiological changes in the body. The state of mind in all circumstances of life is what that meant. It is how much one gets influenced by the external stimuli – positive or negative.
The reason that many people in the world could not achieve long-lasting happiness naturally in life because their happiness is much influenced and relative to external factors. These people experience happiness relative to their material possession, recognition in the world, and a sense of feeling worthiness that they rely upon others.
It is evident from the spiritual gurus that the level of happiness increases when they turn more inwards. It is the same for everyone that the level of happiness increases to the extent where when we decrease the dependency on the external factors for it.
This element is more clearly mentioned in the quote from Ramana Maharishi. Happiness is relative to most people. And, this happiness can be unambiguously referred to as pleasures of life. It is short-lived where it ceases to exist when our body stops supplying dopamine and has to look for some other fresh activities to increase it. Moreover, we have to add newer experiences to it.
This can be experienced when you buy a new car, phone or someone fall in love with you that you desired the most. This happiness has an increased spike at that moment and decreases its intensity quickly with time.
Our job is to shift this happiness from the relative perspectives of life. Let it depend on the inner self. So, it will remain in an elated state for an extended period of time. This is what the happiest people in the world did.
“Whenever you feel happy it is always from the inner. Then mind immediately jumps in and takes control and says, ‘It is because of me.’ When you are in love, it is like death, you feel blissful. Immediately mind comes in and says, ‘Okay, this is me, this is because of me.’ – Osho
The ecstatic state experienced by the spiritualist is different. It doesn’t have any opposite counterpart as like the happiness (pleasures) to the worries. It is a neutral state. It is oneness.
The worldly people are far from their reach. By shifting towards neutrality, the changes in mental emotions become obvious. Real happiness can be experienced. This is the secret to happiness
Uphold few principles by considering these listed things in life. I swear that you can experience the level of increasing happiness in life. It means you won’t get much stressed, able to degrade the pains and keep the mind away from getting depressed in life.
1. Unwanted Expectations in Life
Buddha said, “the uncontrollable desire is the root cause of all your sorrows”. The unwanted expectation of the mind is one of the transformed forms of this desire. Accordingly, if our life moves as expected, we will be happy or else get distressed. This is the common man’s psychological nature.
Life is composed of the probability of events and the future has its own laws. So, the upcoming life events need not be the same as expected.
However, life without active expectations is life without any motivation as I mentioned in the article “How Highly Successful People Get Motivated in Life?”
Here, the responses of the mind to the outcomes of these expectations make the difference.
Control your mind to become flexible and develop an attribute of non-attachment to the mental emotions. Then, it will become easy to change the responses to the outcomes of expectations. Hence, you become less perceptible to negative emotions.
You can expect something positive to happen in life also prepare your mind to admit the worst too. This is one point where you feel more control in life and get less distracted by adverse situations.
Eventually, you will attain a state of yogic mind where you would be actively and enthusiastically involved in your activities without any expectations in life.
2. Not Training the Mind – Wandering Mind
It is left to the individuals to make the mind adapt to the different situations in life. Happiness and sorrows are the attributions of the mind. Its source is vested only in the mind. Hack the mind. Thereafter, everything becomes under control.
By doing years of meditation practices I experienced an important aspect of the mind. The mind is a fundamental line of control and when we can subdue the mind, it becomes more controllable.
Don’t think of controlling the mind overnight. If it is, then there won’t be any distressed and depressed people in the world. They could have controlled the mind to remain firm on happiness. It takes time and slowly you can experience the change.
Learn any mind-controlling meditation techniques. It is one of the prominent and effective ways of controlling the mind. Therefore, you do not what to depend on the external elements. You can rely on your inner strength. (Read also 3 Most Powerful Meditation Techniques in the World)
It is a step-by-step process. You have to dedicate yourself to it. Don’t lose hope. Know that the mind experiences these emotions. You are beyond that. Eventually, you will realize it.
“A Sufi mystic who had always remained happy was asked – For seventy years people had watched him, he had never been found sad. One day they asked him, ‘What is the secret of your happiness?’ He said, ‘There is no secret. Every morning when I wake up, I meditate for five minutes and I say to myself, ‘Listen, now there are two possibilities: you can be miserable, or you can be blissful. Choose.’ And I always choose to be blissful.’ – Osho, Unio Mystica, Vol 2.
3. Unaware of Your Real Dreams – Going Behind Vague Needs
Even if the life purpose cannot be argued under science, it showed in psychology that life with a purpose has a better level of happiness. In the book ‘Crack the Hidden Laws of Life,’ I said that how this life purpose gets developed in a person and how to excavate these real dreams. I also mentioned the unmet needs created in life were ignoring them leads to many problems in life.
In Indian philosophy, there is a popular concept of karma and its results like the scientific cause and effect.
We are executing our karma and expecting particular results from it despite its ordained outcomes. These expectations lay the basis for distress. The yogis say that it is better to not get obsessed with the results. Because karma has its unique effects and we do not have any control over its consequences. That’s why if expected or unexpected it will happen as determined.
When we dig a little deeper into this concept, we can find that the effect of karma is ascribed to the state of mind in its one phase – i.e., what we experience with the mind in the future.
Everything in the cosmos is interconnected. The karma and the result of the karma either work according to it.
For example, one has tried hard to become a cop.
Karma – activities behind becoming a cop.
Results – his mental state of being a cop
4. Looking For Short Term Pleasures than the Long-Term Happiness
Involving in short-term pleasures makes one deviate from the real psychological needs of life. We have to look for long-term happiness because our real psychological needs and life purpose are probably not easily achievable.
This is the case when a person likes to remain in their comfort zone. Such people will not be contented by these deeds. They may feel temporary pleasures in life and later they regret the loss. The miseries follow their life later. (Read also 8 Scientifically Proven Ways to Have a Better Life)
Sacrificing the nearby pleasures by working out for long-term happiness is the way to lead a better life. You may get stressed and disappointed in its path, but you feel more contented and the happiness felt is worthy when you reach there.